Dear Sweet, beautiful, kind, loving girl. (I could fill this page of adjectives that describe you.)
I woke up this morning thinking of you.
You’re heading to middle school and I’m afraid for you. I’m afraid of the cruelty and unkindness that I know exists; not only in middle school but in the world. I hope with all my heart that it doesn’t change you because you are so incredible just the way you are.
I want to protect you from any hurt that might be lurking in the vast concrete halls of middle school; and life. In my heart I know you will handle yourself with kindness and grace, as you always do, but I know your soft heart will ache from time to time. You’ll question so many things about yourself and the people around you. When you lose your way, I will remind you of the girl I have known since her very first breath. The amazingly loving and kind person that I’m so very proud of. I will remind you of the silly girl who lights my world and values her family and education above all else. I will remind you of the gorgeous young lady who is willing to give so much of herself expecting nothing in return. When you need to be reminded of your beauty and value do not look into a mirror, look inside yourself. That’s where your true beauty lies.
No amount of make up, designer clothes, or expensive shoes can make you beautiful…. or a good person. Be a good person, Bean. Be supportive, kind, loving, helpful and honest. Be you! If you falter, lift yourself up and acknowledge your mistakes. Learn from them.
Please understand that even if others behave in a way that is hurtful, selfish or unkind that it doesn’t have to erode your sense of self. I know it will hurt, but always remember that people are like puzzle pieces, not everyone fits together properly. Don’t try to force it or fit in where you don’t belong.
What I’m going to tell you now is really important, and I hope this bit of advice stays with you in life. Don’t participate in gossip. Gossip is such a nasty thing. It’s almost always a gross mutilation of the truth. It’s dirty, judgmental and negative. No good comes from it. It is ugly and unkind. Discuss issues and ideas, not people.
Be brave in middle school, Sweet Pea. Stand up to bullies and if you see someone being hurtful to someone else, tell them to stop. Be a leader, not a follower.
Now here’s the most important bit of advice I want to give you. Have fun! Smile, laugh, and enjoy yourself. Make new friends and be a positive force in the lives of those around you. Soak up the education and remember that your dedication to learning can lead you down a path of academic success and accomplishment. Be a source of kindness and light, as you always have been, and the right people will be drawn to you!
Just be you!
Good luck at Middle School. I love you more than words can ever describe. I’m your biggest fan!
And a quote from my favorite 11 year old girl, “YOLO”.